It is a well-known fact that a women’s biological clock results in decreasing fertility and ovarian reserve as they age. This decline is exaggerated after the age of 35. Egg (oocyte) freezing allows the freedom for women to preserve their fertility while their eggs are in their prime.
Options for Lesbian Women
There are several different options for Lesbian women who wish to have a family. For those who have no fertility issues, a simple treatment of Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) using donor sperm may be all that is required. This is possible when the same woman provides the eggs and will be carrying the pregnancy. For those women who are somewhat older, have PCOS or experienced other fertility issues, In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) or donor egg with donor sperm may be recommended. At Oasis, our physicians will do a complete medical assessment and recommend the treatment best suited to you.
For Lesbian Couples it is also possible for one partner to donate an egg and the other partner to carry the pregnancy. In this situation, IVF is required. The partner donating the egg will under go stimulation with hormonal medications and have her eggs retrieved and fertilized. The resultant embryo will then be transferred into the partner’s uterus to carry the pregnancy. Many Lesbian couples choose this option when both partners wish to participate in the process.
You may wish to consider who will carry the baby and which partner will provide the eggs before you meet with your physician
Options for Gay Men
Unlike Lesbian couples, it is not as easy for Gay men to become parents. Gay men have the option of adopting or using a surrogate. There are two types of surrogacy, traditional surrogacy or gestational surrogacy and it is very important to understand the difference when considering using this option.
Traditional surrogacy – In the case of traditional surrogacy, a woman becomes pregnant by using the sperm of either you, your partner, or donor sperm, through IUI or IVF. It is the surrogate’s egg that is fertilized, and she will carry the child to birth even if she does not intend to parent the child when it is born. It is important to understand that in this case the surrogate is child’s genetic mother which can lead to legal complications whether there is a contract in effect. Oasis does not recommend this type of surrogacy, even though it may appear to be easier for those involved.
Gestational surrogacy – In the case of gestational surrogacy the surrogate has no biological connection to the child that is conceived. It is somewhat more complicated than traditional surrogacy as it is necessary to have both an egg donor and a gestational carrier. Typically, the egg is retrieved from the donor using IVF, and the egg will then be fertilized using either your sperm or your partner’s sperm or even donor sperm. The resulting embryo will then be transferred into a gestational surrogate who will carry the pregnancy until the child is born. It is important to understand that the gestational surrogate is the child’s birth mother but has no genetic connection to the child. This type of surrogacy works very well in Canada.
Oasis strongly recommends speaking with a legal professional before entering any type of surrogacy arrangement and having a contract in place before proceeding.
Sperm Donation, Egg Donation and Surrogacy
At Oasis, we recognize that using sperm donors, egg donors, and surrogates to start you family can seem daunting. We are here to guide you through the process and assist you in building the family you dream of.